It doesn’t matter what the topic is. It doesn’t matter who is in conversation. It doesn’t matter if he was invited to join in or not. He will do so anyway, and he will find a way to make it about him.
Do you know him?
You probably do as there is likely at least one such person in your life. I know of a number of people who would fit the bill. And many are friends and acquaintances. Unfortunately, that constant chatter makes them hard to be around and, if truth be told, there are times when I would simply prefer not to be around them. So it begs the question, “How do you deal with it?”
Do you ignore it? Do you address it? And if so, how do you do it without hurting them? It can be a tough call.
When I have had the conversation, I have done so with a couple things in mind. Firstly, the person has to believe that my feedback is in their best interest, and secondly, I try to introduce the concept of WAIT.
WAIT: Why Am I Talking? Because if I am talking, I am likely not listening. And listening makes it more about others than me.
Lord, grant me the courage to be honest with those I love. Amen. — DR